March 29th, 2019
Sunday Bible Class
Our curriculum is Bible Studies for Life. The lessons scheduled for this week are:
Spanish Preschool: Jesús y Zaqueo
English Preschool: Jesus and Zacchaeus
School Age: Jesus and Zacchaeus
Please take the time to look at the Activity Pages that your children bring home. You will find the Bible story, suggested Scripture reading for the week, and instructions for how to download the Bible Studies for Life app.
We love seeing your children in Bible class. The more frequently they come, the more likely they are to build stronger relationships with the other children and with the teachers. We look forward to seeing you on Sunday!
-Caleb Bergman has a birthday on April 1.
-Elias Osorto has a birthday on April 2.
-Lucas Rosales has a birthday on April 1.
-Dayleen Valdes brought a gift for Compassion International.
-The Preschool Class had good participation from Samuel Henriquez, Guillermo Lameda, Maya Pino, Katherine Ruiz and Samantha Ruiz.
-The Kindergarten-2nd Grade Class had good participation from Jacob Bergman, Alfonso Corro, Oliver Lowrance, and Sammy Pino
-The 3rd-5th Grade Class had good participation from Jassiel Baez, Jedany Baez, Caleb Bergman, Jonathan Delisma, and Dayleen Valdes.
Mark Your Calendar
Noche de Alabanza
Area Wide Singing and Family Night
K-2nd Grade Picnic
The flash of anger in my tween daughter’s eyes surprised me. We'd been camping, and I was helping her sister who had just burned her hand on hot ash when she angrily said that she had hurt herself the night before. When I asked her to let me finish helping her sister, her anger flared. “You always help her first! You don't care for me at all!” She rushed back to our cabin as I finished bandaging Aly’s hand.I walked back to the cabin, dreading the confrontation ahead. I could see how the next few minutes would play out: demands from me, mounting accusations from her. There had to be a better way to manage these cycles of anger. It was making all of us weary, especially Maddie.
Once a child is angry, it's easy for him to stay in a cycle of thoughts, emotions and physical responses that feed his rage. Here’s what the angry cycle looks like:
-An event creates distress that sets off the child's anger. This can be something another person says or does, or an unmet expectation.
-The pain triggers thoughts or memories that focus the child’s angry response on someone else. For example, he may think you don’t understand his life or that you care more about a sibling.
-These “trigger thoughts” lead to a negative emotional response. Your child feels frustrated, rejected, fearful or enraged.
-This causes a physical response, such as a flushed face, tense jaw, pounding heart and clenched fists. As anger takes control, it is difficult to think rationally.
-Finally, a behavioral response occurs. All these things evoke a fight, flight or freeze response.
We often try to lecture our children during their angry cycle, but they cannot think rationally. Our best efforts at correction will not get through during this highly emotional state; harsh discipline can make things worse.
This is true for all ages: An emotional, angry teen can't be any more rational than an emotional, angry toddler. When one of my children is angry, the angry cycle must stop before anything else can happen.
When I acknowledge anger in the moment, my kids see that I'm paying attention. And when I make myself available, they turn to me for help. They want to make good choices; they just need extra guidance, and are often grateful for my offer to help instead of sending them to their rooms or giving them consequences.
This works better than telling a child to calm down. Choosing the right words in your child's angry cycle can defuse the situation and lead to healthy resolution.
When a child gets angry, physical reactions are occurring in the body. According to a public health organization, "The body is flooded with stress hormones. The brain shunts blood away from the gut and towards the muscles, in preparation for physical exertion. Heart rate, blood pressure and respiration increase.”
We can help our kids understand what's happening inside their minds and bodies when negative thoughts are triggered so that they don't get caught up in the angry cycle, which can become a habit. We can teach children to recognize and stop their own angry cycles using the three R's: recognize, reflect and redirect.
To help a child recognize trigger thoughts, write a list of trigger thoughts on a piece of paper and review them regularly with your child. Some examples are: "She doesn't care," "This isn't fair," and "Nobody respects me."
If your child is unable to identify trigger thoughts, you can help by saying something like, "I've noticed that when you think I'm not listening to you, you get really angry with me." Try to observe patterns that your child doesn't yet recognize, and then help him.
Next, teach your child to check his thoughts. For example, when he is having an emotional response, encourage him to evaluate whether the thoughts in his mind are true. When a child learns to evaluate her thoughts in this way, she is better able to change them.
The next step is to replace the faulty thought with the truth as we read about in Philippians 4:8. Replacing negative thoughts with empowering ones requires some practice. Help your child focus on truth by listing counterstatements to the trigger thoughts you've written down. For example, "I know Mom loves me," "God is with me in all circumstances" and "I can set an example for others."
When our kids learn how to catch, check and change their trigger thoughts, they are better able to keep these negative thoughts from growing into bitter emotions and angry outbursts. As we help them redirect trigger thoughts to truthful thoughts, we equip them to stop the cycle of anger.
Condensed from “How to Stop Your Child’s Angry Cycle” by Tricia Goyer from focusonthefamily.com.