April 5th, 2019
Sunday Bible Class
Our curriculum is Bible Studies for Life. The lessons scheduled for this week are:
Spanish Preschool: Jesús lavó los pies de los discípulos
English Preschool: Jesus Washes the Disciples Feet
School Age: Jesus Washes the Disciples Feet
Please take the time to look at the Activity Pages that your children bring home. You will find the Bible story, suggested Scripture reading for the week, and instructions for how to download the Bible Studies for Life app.
We love seeing your children in Bible class. The more frequently they come, the more likely they are to build stronger relationships with the other children and with the teachers. We look forward to seeing you on Sunday!
-Cashton Best had great participation in class.
-Brenda Emokah encouraged the class with her singing and answered questions about the lesson.
-Vivian Garcia has a birthday on April 9.
-Lucas Gonzalez has a birthday today.
-Will Lasater knew the Bible stories that were reviewed in class.
-Guillermo Lamada has a birthday today.
-Henry Lowrance answered questions about the lesson.
-Levi Parsard answered questions about the lesson.
-Maya Pino encouraged the class with her singing.
-Dayleen Valdes brought a gift for Compassion International.
-The Preschool Class had good participation from Daniel Gomez, Christian Gonzalez, Samuel Henriquez, Guillermo Lameda, Ashley Martinez, Katherine Ruiz, and Samantha Ruiz.
-The Kindergarten-2nd Grade Class had good participation from Oliver Lowrance, Aiden Martinez, Luke Parsard, and Sammy Pino.
-The 3rd-5th Grade Class had good participation from Jaeeiel Baez, Jedany Baez, Caleb Bergman, Steven Carmago, and Dayleen Valdes.
Mark Your Calendar
K-2nd Grade Picnic
When you’re making choices as a parent concerning your children and your family, it’s easy to choose whatever is most comfortable in the moment. But a friend of mine gave me a much better criterion for making these decisions. Ask yourself, “What pattern do I want to set for my family?”
Let me give you a couple of examples of how we’ve used this: Camping with children is a hassle. There’s the packing and unpacking. The fact that little kids can’t do all that much that makes this form of recreation enjoyable (can’t hike very far, swim, bait their own fishing hook, etc.). And the fact that they roll around in the tent and make what is already an unpleasant night’s sleep more unpleasant. The trip is a blast for them, but for Mom and Dad? It’s more work than fun. Nevertheless, we’ve tried to go camping at least once a year just to set this pattern from the start: “The McKays spend time in the outdoors.”
Example #2: One of our two cars is a dented 2007 rattlebox of a Honda with over 120k miles on it. I wasn’t crazy about the car when we bought it a decade ago when I was in school, and I still have no love for it. I’d really like to replace it with a nice truck. But, I feel like keeping the car is an important symbol in our family; it sets the pattern: “We don’t replace something just for the heck of it; we use it up until it no longer functions.”
The patterns you set will of course depend on the values you want to uphold in your own family.
I know folks who took their babies and toddlers on international trips — even though toting along this extra “baggage” naturally created difficulties and made things less fun for Mom and Dad — because right from the start they wanted to set the pattern: “We’re a family that travels.” I know parents who take their kids to church even on vacation, no matter the location, to set the pattern: “Sundays are for worship.” I know those where the whole family goes for a run before opening Christmas presents, to set the pattern: “Stuff is nice, but the greatest gift is physical health.”
Asking yourself what pattern you want to set for your family is useful in helping you focus on the long term over the short. A decision can seemingly make the most sense in the moment, but not contribute to the overall trajectory you’d like to set your family on.
The first time your toddler has a meltdown at a restaurant, handing him your phone can seem like an inconsequential decision. But you might check yourself by asking, “What pattern do I want to set here?”: “We use our phones to soothe bad feelings and boredom,” or “We never use phones at the dinner table”?
When your kids are “helping” with chores or “helping” you cook, and doing the tasks slowly and wrongly, and even making more work for you than if you just did the job yourself, it’s easy to step in and take things over. But stop and think not just about the result you want right now, but the result you want a year, five years, ten years down the line. Is it more important to get the chore done quickly, or teach your kid how to be responsible and competent?
My aforementioned friend decided very early on that instead of letting his four kids watch television on Saturday mornings, they had to read books instead. While the rule was hard to enforce when the kids were young, they say, now when Mom and Dad wake up, they’re delighted to see all their children sitting and reading on the couch (and they allow themselves to wake up later, as they feel better about sleeping in knowing their kids aren’t zombied out in front of a screen!).
Asking yourself what pattern you’re setting with a certain decision can be useful for individual choices, but is particularly powerful for familial ones, because within the walls of your home, you’re creating a tiny, but bona fide culture. A culture with its own norms and traditions. A culture that will influence parental happiness, and your children’s lives, far more than the things you try to more proactively “lecture” about. It changes the calculus you use when trying to figure out whether some decision is worth it or not. What may seem like a small, insignificant choice when viewed as an isolated decision, may seem more important and worthwhile — and more motivating to follow through on — when viewed as a stepping stone for things to come, a piece of the scaffolding of your family’s culture, a building block for a pattern-in-progress.
Condensed from “What Pattern Are You Setting in Your Family” by Brett and Kate McKay from artofmanliness.com.